What is Serve & Play?

Stepping into your desire to give

A workshop where you get to create your own menu. You decide what you want to offer and what you want to receive—entirely at your own pace, within your own boundaries.

Sometimes I hear concerns like:
🌀 “I don’t feel like doing an exercise with just anyone.”
🌀 “I’m not sure if I’ll be in the mood for something sensual that day.”

And that’s totally okay! You get to decide in the moment what’s possible, based on who you’re with and what feels right for you.

A reversed approach to consent

In this workshop, it’s not about asking: “Can I touch your…?”

Instead, you offer something, and it appears on your menu:
“I offer a lovely massage,” or “I offer a hand-in-hand walk,” or “I offer a bondage session,”… The other person can then choose whether or not to respond to that offer.

This reversed structure often makes sensing and respecting consent much easier and more natural.

To serve & to play

To serve: a conscious choice

Serving does not mean submission. It’s not about being a “slave” or doing something because it’s being asked of you. Quite the opposite: to serve is a conscious, free choice to offer something to another—from a place of joy, abundance, love for giving, and playfulness.

Think of a chef preparing a meal with love, a masseur offering their hands, or a friend listening with full presence. In each case, there’s a clear offering:
“This is what I have to give.”

In this workshop, we explore how fulfilling—and sometimes even surprising—it can be to give. Not because it’s expected, but because it’s allowed. And most importantly: because you get to choose what you offer, and how.

💬 “What is alive in me that I’d love to offer to someone else?”
💬 “Would I like something in return? Do I enjoy being ‘paid’—in attention, touch, silence, softness?”

To play: exploring with curiosity

Serving doesn’t have to be extravagant or intense. Even something “simple”—like a warm hug, an attentive conversation, or a gentle touch—can have a deep impact.

It’s not about spectacular experiences or sensual surrender—unless that’s what you want.
Want to stretch your comfort zone? Go for it.
Offering a sexy role play? Yes please!

It’s all about offering what feels aligned for you in the moment. From your heart. From your own attunement.

Maybe your offering today is simply holding space for someone.
Maybe it’s a smile, a calming presence, or a hand to hold.

✨ Whatever you bring, it’s enough.
✨ You don’t need to prove anything.
✨ There is no pressure—only invitations and playful possibilities.

You decide how far you want to go. Even a “simple” offer can be surprisingly rich.
Everything is allowed, nothing is required.
Your menu can change again and again. In every moment and every encounter, you tune in anew.

What does it look like?

🌀 We start by creating a shared language of consent, so everyone feels safe and supported.
🌀 You’ll be guided in composing your personal menu—what you are offering.
🌀 During the exercises, you can adjust your menu depending on who is in front of you and what the moment calls for.
🌀 We’ll work with short and longer exercises in rotating pairs.

Practical info

✨ Maybe you prefer to stay fully clothed, or maybe you choose to be naked. Both are completely welcome.
✨ Sensuality can flow if it feels right, but nothing is required. Feeling is more important than doing.
✨ Depending on the group and the workshop, you’ll also receive a brief introduction to kink, impact play, or roleplay—extra tools to explore and possibly include in your menu.

✅ What to bring:

• Natural, unscented massage oil (regular kitchen olive oil is also fine)

• Two large bath towels

• Comfortable clothing

• Clothing or accessories to adorn and express yourself (if that feels good to you)

✅ Do you enjoy playing with tools?
Do you have ropes, cuffs, a little whip, feathers, or something else you secretly love? Not sure if it “fits”? Feel free to bring it—you can always decide whether or not to use it.
Prefer not to bring anything at all? That’s perfectly fine too—just as interesting!

You choose. Always.
💫 Nothing is required. Everything is welcome.